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How to talk to your child about puberty, bodies and body safety

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Talk to children about bodies early and often, using correct names for body parts and simple, age-appropriate answers. Before puberty, explain the changes ahead; teach privacy, body safety and that they can always tell you if something feels wrong. Stay calm, answer honestly, and keep the door open so your child comes to you, not the internet.

Key takeaways
  • Small, regular conversations beat one big talk.
  • Use correct names for body parts.
  • Teach body safety: privacy, consent and telling a trusted adult.
  • Calm, honest answers keep your child coming back to you.
In this article
  1. Start early, keep it simple
  2. Before puberty
  3. Body safety
  4. Online safety and digital wellness
  5. Teen years
  6. Myths and facts
  7. Support for parents

Many parents worry about “the talk”. The good news: it doesn’t have to be one awkward conversation. Small, honest chats over the years help children grow up confident and safe.

Start early, keep it simple

  • Use correct names for body parts.
  • Answer questions briefly and honestly, at their level.
  • Stay calm; your reaction teaches them whether it’s safe to ask.

Before puberty

Explain the changes ahead: growth, body hair, periods for girls, voice and body changes for boys, and emotions. Knowing in advance prevents fear.

Body safety

Teach that:

  • Private parts are private.
  • No one should touch them in a way that feels uncomfortable, or ask them to keep secrets about touch.
  • They can always tell you or another trusted adult, and they won’t be in trouble.

Online safety and digital wellness

Children encounter adult content online early. Set device rules, use parental controls, and talk about what to do if they see something upsetting. See academic stress in teenagers for digital wellness tips.

Teen years

Talk about relationships, respect, consent and peer pressure. Share your values while listening to theirs.

Myths and facts

  • Myth: Talking about sex encourages it. Fact: Accurate information helps young people make safer, later choices.
  • Myth: Schools will cover it. Fact: Parents remain the most trusted source.
  • Myth: One talk is enough. Fact: Ongoing, open conversations work best.

Support for parents

Our mental wellness services include child and adolescent wellness with parent counselling. Book a Discovery Call or start the free mental wellness check.

The bottom line

Honest, calm, age-appropriate conversations help children feel safe in their bodies and safe to come to you.

Frequently asked questions

Before it starts. Many children begin noticing changes from around 8–13, so gentle conversations a little earlier help them feel prepared.

It’s fine to say, “That’s a great question, let me find out and we’ll talk.” Then follow up.

Explain that private parts are private, that no one should touch them or ask them to keep secrets about touch, and that they can always tell you or another trusted adult.

Related servicesMental wellness: assessment and counselling for a calmer, stronger mind →Adult sex education and sexual health counselling →

This article is for general education and is not a substitute for personal medical advice. If you have sudden symptoms, pain, bleeding or thoughts of self-harm, please contact a doctor or local emergency services.

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